The First Date

First dates can be a nerve-racking experience! The good news is that Searchmate can help you! With a little preparation, first dates can be a great way to spend your evening. You can be assured you won't be faced with a shock at that first meeting: Searchmate will ensure you'll already be compatible in many areas and it will be simply down to chemistry.

The excitement of not knowing who is going to walk round the corner and if they might be the one, really can be thrilling. And afterwards, if you don't feel attracted to them or vice versa, what's been lost? A little time, money for drinks maybe, but you've gained in experience and confidence for the next date and maybe, a friend. Every date with a new person is your own personal social laboratory. Don't be afraid to mess things up, learn from it and try again.

All our consultants are locally based and experienced in how to get the most from your first date.

Just remember, what you are ultimately looking for is a romantic friendship with someone with whom you can be yourself, have mutual respect, are sexually compatible and enjoy that all-important "chemistry"! Searchmate will do their best to help you find that ideal person.

1) Look your best, but don't overdo it - save something for later!

2) Be honest - if not, it could cause problems later on.

3) Explore interests to discuss together.

4) Be positive, confident, open-minded, relaxed.

5) Keep your expectations low and your enjoyment high.

6) Don't be bitter about ex-partners - definitely unattractive.

7) Look for the best in your date - beauty is only skin deep.

8) Don't monopolise the conversation, listen more than you speak.

For more tips including: what to say and what not to say, how to make or receive the first telephone call, how to say no in the best possible way and how to make sure you get a second date - just arrange to meet one of our consultants. Together, you can discuss how we may help find your ideal partner.