What Is The Best Matchmaking Service?

What Is The Best Matchmaking Service?

So many choices it can be confusing

If you are looking for a new partner then there is a multitude of choices around which way you could go about it and if you’re newly into dating after a long relationship or marriage, then dating has changed so much that you may not recognise it from how it used to be in days gone by, when you were young and just starting out on your adult life.

Meeting in Bars and Clubs

When we were younger bars and clubs were a popular way of meeting others but the statistics say that over 70% of people you are in contact with on a night out are married or in a committed relationship already, so it can be very hit and miss and if you’re new to dating and are really committed to trying to meet someone for a new relationship, this may well be a strong recommendation to avoid.

The online route

Since the start of the new millennium online dating and dating apps have been a strong option and alternative to consider and so to many of us, this is now all we have ever known. However since 2012 online dating relating crime has become a real problem, fake and fraudulent profiles, scamming, sexual predators, plus worse, sexual assault, date rape and even murder has been linked to meeting strangers online and so over the years many potential daters have flocked back to a traditional, face to face dating service and personal matchmaking has gained in strength during this migration.

Traditional Dating Agency Services

As the problems with online dating, particularly fraud and scamming, have grown, people have very much sought to return to the safer haven of meeting people who have been carefully interviewed and vetted and who have shown their commitment by paying a substantial fee to meet a partner. Numbers joining have burgeoned in recent years to provide UK daters with a highly credible and much safer alternative to meeting through online dating or dating apps. The search term ‘dating agency’, personal introductions’ or ‘personal matchmaking’ will throw up a variety of potential options for you to consider, not just ourselves. Here we look at a few of them and rank them according to their current ranking on Google:

Dating Agency Options

What is the best matchmaking service available to residents in the UK, see the list below of the best dating agencies and matchmaking services.

Searchmate

Searchmate was first launched by Adrian Slatter in the 1990’s and the Searchmate brand was purchased by the Dating Options Group in 2013. So a long established and highly credible agency, with a registered address in Warwickshire but covering the whole of the UK, with one of the largest databases of all personal matchmaking agencies.
Rated as 4.3 stars out of 5 on Google.

Executive Club of St James’

Executive Club of St James’s has been in business since 1985 and was featured on BBC1in their ‘The Matchmaker’ documentary. Their address is Flat D150, Parliament View, Albert Embankment. Not listed under this name at Companies House.
Rated as 2.7 stars out of 5 on Google

Select Personal Introductions

Select are based in Manchester and have over 20 years experience in delivering a personal matchmaking service for professional singles aged over 21 looking for a real relationship. All clients are background checked and are interviewed to verify their identity. Incorporated in 1999 and with a solid background.
Select are rated 4.1 stars on Google.

Ignite Dating

Ignite are one of the newer entries into the dating marketplace, having been formed as recently as 8th November 2019 according to Companies House. They are based in Oakham in Rutland and don’t have a Google ranking as yet. We don’t believe they have a connection to Ignite Dating of Surrey who were dissolved in 2011, although they do have Surrey and London branches.
No Google Ranking.

Matchmaker London – The Vida Consultancy Ltd

Vida are located in Berkeley Street, London, having been incorporated in 2011 according to Companies House. They are an international matchmaking agency founded by chartered psychologist Rachel MacLynn. They are here to create your ultimate relationship.
Rated at 3.5 stars out of 5 on Google.

Berkeley International

Berkeley International position themselves as an international introduction agency and elite dating agency trading from a registered address at 23, West Street, Haslemere in Surrey, with an office address in Berkeley Square, Mayfair. They have traded for more than 19 years since 2003 and like ourselves are members of the Dating Agency Association.
Rated as 3.4 stars out of 5 on Google.

Gray and Farrar International

Gray and Farrar are based in Hill Street, West London and were incorporated in 2009 as a Limited Liability Partnership, previously Gray and Farrar Introductions LLP. They are quintessentially British but with a truly global reach. With a reassuringly traditional approach, with personal service and attentiveness at its very core.
Rated as 3.0 stars out of 5 on Google

Bowes Lyon Partnership

Bowes Lyon have traded for 10 years plus according to Google, since 2009 and are a discreet matchmaking agency for accomplished professionals. They are based in Bancroft Dassels, Braughing, Ware, Hertfordshire with a London office address at St James’s Square in London.
Rated as 4.2 stars out of 5 on Google

The Love Company

Have a registered address at CSH Consulting, PO Box 7784, in Kettering Northants, but are based in Kensington Church Street, in London, previous names were The Sloane Arranger and Aspray Introductions Ltd, they have featured on TV in The Ultimate Matchmaker and on TLC’s The Dating Agency. Run by Lara Aspray and her team of matchmakers.
Rated as 4.0 stars out of 5 on Google

Simitov International

A Jewish Matchmaking Company with 5 years plus in business according to Google. Serves London and nearby areas and based at 72, Great Suffolk Street in London, SE1. Said to be uniting high calibre Jewish singles looking for love. Not listed at Companies House.
Rated as 3.7 stars out of 5 on Google.

All rankings were correct at the time of writing 26th April 2022.

Want to know more?

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What Does A Matchmaker Cost?

What Does A Matchmaker Cost?

How Much Does A Matchmaker Cost?

We get asked the question “What does a Matchmaker cost” on many occasions – usually at least a few times a week and it probably comes about from the fact that in the early days of internet based dating and dating apps, it was a free service and they made their profits advertising rather than by charging for the service. So people maybe got used to the idea that “dating is free”, which of course it never is, as every company that is employing staff has to make a profit one way or another, to cover its costs.

How “free dating” works

The downside of “dating is free”, is that the service in most instances wasn’t very good and therefore wasn’t successful for the majority of users, hence very poor reviews on Google and other search engines and the realisation from most consumers that dating at little or no cost didn’t work and that the end product was very poor.

Free but does it work?

Basically what “free online dating” was – was the loan of a particular company’s dating software and matching algorithm, with the consumer actually doing all of the work. There could be little or no support available if things went wrong, as they weren’t able to employ staff to provide a proper, meaningful service and one that worked and could produce a lasting result.

Why Personal Matchmaking may cost more

So to answer the question, a Matchmaker does often cost more than an online service as you are dealing with a real live human being or team of human beings and they have to be paid. But they can often also produce a result and that would result in happy clients embarking on a wonderful, long term relationship and maybe even moving in together or ultimately marriage. So the choice is yours – a free service or something a little more meaningful that might lead somewhere.

Your Matchmaker’s involvement and what to expect

If we look at the job a Matchmaker may do, that would give you the best clue as to costs, as in most agencies you would be like to get the following:

  • Dating advice prior to joining according to your circumstances and location.
  • A personal interview.
  • A professionally written profile.
  • Photography advice or even sometimes a photoshoot (photographs can be so important).
  • Background checks on every member, to check out they are who they say they are.
  • Checks on their residency, involvement in crime and solvency.
  • A welcome call from your Matchmaker and possibly a Dating Coach.
  • A guaranteed level of dates or profiles.
  • Ongoing help and advice from your Matchmaker.
  • Regular reviews and profile updates.
  • And eventually a wonderful new partner entering your life.

A service that does work

So quite a lot of professionalism and expertise and a service that works and regularly produces results and one that we’d like to think is vastly superior to meeting someone through online dating or by swiping left or right on a dating app. It might also pleasantly surprise you to learn that whilst some Personal Matchmaking companies can be expensive, many aren’t and wouldn’t be charging that much more than an online service.

Typical Matchmaker costs

These days the minimum membership cost would probably be from around about £1,000, right up to £100,000 for the best of the best in Mayfair in London, but typically entry level services would be from around £1,000 to say £5,000, with London companies tending to charge more, with teens of thousands being quite commonplace.

You can view the Searchmate pricing options here which are competitive compared to most other matchmaking services you will find.

How Searchmate Compares and Getting in Touch

Here at Searchmate, we try to offer a good value service, we wouldn’t want to be the cheapest, so we start at £1,295 and at the top level £3,295 for our Platinum product, with Club also available at £1,895. If you’d like to know more our Membership Advisers never charge for their advice and would be happy to talk you through the industry and answer any questions you may have. They can be reached from 9am until 9pm most days on 0800 644 4160 and the call is always at our expense. Alternatively fill in the contact form below and we will ring you back within 24 working hours to take you through your options as impartially as we can. There is never any obligation either, so please do make that call.

Do Dating Agencies Work?

Do Dating Agencies Work?

Many people ask this question, probably because of the onslaught of online dating and dating apps, they don’t realise that there is actually an alternative. But the truth is that Dating Agencies have been around for centuries not just a couple of decades like their online competitors. With the first, known as a matrimonial bureau in those days, opening it’s doors in London as early as 1705, so is even older than the United Kingdom itself.

So there is an alternative

So yes, for those searching for an alternative to meeting online, happily there is an alternative and one that has been around a long time with many thousands of successes over the years. At Searchmate we have been around since the 1990’s, way before many of the major players in online dating and during that time we have been delivering a high quality, face to face personal matchmaking service to our members and helping them to find love away from the internet.

Our major differentiators

With online dating and dating apps, mainly you are using their software, but actually do the work yourself – more of a ‘DIY dating’ service. With Searchmate and other face to face agencies, you are likely to get that work done for you. So you are interviewed, we then build a professional profile for you, take and help you choose which photographs are going to be best for you to attract others of the right calibre. We also take you through our checking/vetting procedures to ensure that you have the right background to join an exclusive agency, which is largely residency, solvency and a check for any involvement in crime.

Lots of support and successes

When you are fully onboarded and have become a member in your own right, the next step is your welcome call from your matchmaker and the exciting part of our membership is just about to begin – dating others. Your matchmaker will give you an overview of how we work and how we have brought success to many thousands over the years since 1998. It is a tried and tested formula and gives us a very high success rate of over 90%. Now that isn’t people getting engaged or married (although of course many still do) but people who have happily gone into ‘exchange’ with others and are dating them and forming a relationship – which is always our goal.

Our guarantees

No one can absolutely guarantee chemistry and of course we can never force our members to say yes to each other, but we do have a large database of quality people and it’s always our belief that there is someone out there for everybody. So we do always guarantee the number of recommendations that we provide and our aim is always to out perform that guarantee on as many occasions as we can. Although client flexibility and open mindedness is a key consideration and factor in achieving this. Clients who show flexibility around their matches are the ones that usually enjoy the best memberships and go on to find love.

Options to suit all Budgets

At Searchmate we have a range of membership options, starting with Associate, going up to Club and then on to Platinum. Associate is great value as you are getting access to work with your own mentor and guide throughout your membership – your personal matchmaker and access to our excellent database of carefully vetted people. Our Club product provides greater levels of recommendations, a hold facility and a higher priority for matches, so less waiting for new members to filter down to you, but still great value for money.

Our high end Platinum Product

At the top end our Platinum product, would provide access immediately to new members coming onboard without you having to wait for them, a higher level of confidentiality – your profile doesn’t go out until you have said yes to the match, a face to face interview in your own home if preferred, individual one to one matches to enable you to properly evaluate each of them. Plus an ‘on hold’ facility to freeze your membership whilst dating. Which is obviously a far cry from ‘DIY Dating’ on the internet.

A typical agency

We have highlighted our own practices within Searchmate, to describe how a dating agency works but we would be very typical to others, although we believe that the Searchmate database is larger than most – to give you the very best chance of finding love. We believe it to be the largest in the UK of personally interviewed and vetted potential dates, also we do cover the whole of mainland Great Britain and even remote areas are not precluded, which is more unusual. So wherever you are in the country – a high quality dating agency service is available to you.

Like to know more?

If you’d like to know more, then there is never any obligation or compulsion to join, but our Membership Advisers, Jane, Amanda and Jack are always free to talk to and answer your dating questions, impartially and in an even handed, friendly way. We have typically 200-300 enquiries each month, so there is never any hard sell, we simply don’t need to do that. So feel free to ring us in confidence and have a chat, we’d love to hear from you and would simply aim to put you in an informed position, so you can decide if our service might be of interest. Our telephone number is 0800 644 4160 – so please ring us today to kick things off.

The Best Dating Coach For Men

The Best Dating Coach For Men

Men are from Mars and Women most definitely are from Venus

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, we have always probably known that and certainly since Dr John Gray’s book of the same name was written, all that time ago in 1992, it only actually feels like yesterday! Certainly when relationships break down men and women certainly do seem to react differently.

When things go wrong

Men often prefer their own company and maybe feel like they want to cry into their beer in a pub or bar, women are typically the complete opposites and invariably have a close network of friends who rally and provide support to get the friend this has happened to out and about again and keep them busy and interacting socially. Who is right and who is wrong is actually anyone’s guess but for both the healing process has begun, albeit form two vastly differing starting points.

Different philosophies around moving on

Both will gradually start to interact socially again and the hunt for a new partner will begin, maybe a little sooner for men with ladies taking their time more often and taking time to grieve and get over their lost love gradually. With men taking more of a gamble more quickly, ‘getting back on the horse’ much more quickly in an attempt to move on and find someone special again.

Seeking specialist advice

Whilst both sexes react somewhat differently, this might be the time to consider getting some specialist advice on what has happened and why and how to avoid the same issue going wrong again in the future. They may also feel they want some advice on how to grieve and get back on their feet again, on things that could help them feel stronger and less grief stricken. Here we look at Dating Coaches that could have a positive impact and help the situation. We have worked with several Dating Coaches over the years, so here are our recommendations.

The Best Dating Coaches For Men

Karen Perkins

Karen is based in Sheffield and being in the north offers great advice but also great advice at great prices too. Karen has a very straight forward approach but is very empathetic and helpful. She provides help and advice to Searchmate clients on some of our memberships, so if you’re thinking of joining Karen could even be helping you on a complimentary basis.
You can contact Karen through www.karenperkinslifecoach.co.uk

Google Ranking 5 Stars

Trelawney Kerrigan

Trelawney is the Dating Coach with our sister company Elect Club and you can contact her there www.electclub.co.uk she has been working within our parent company Dating Options for many years. Trelawney is an author of two successful books ‘Be a Hollywood Heroine of your own life’ and ‘Be the woman he falls for not the girl he sleeps with’. Trelawney is also straight forward and extremely honest but empathetic and understanding. She is extremely well recommended as a coach and qualified hypnotherapist.

Google Ranking 5 Stars

James Preece

James is based in Loudwater, Buckinghamshire and is an extremely well known Dating Coach and Therapist. James can help you master the secrets of dating, build confidence, help with flirting skills, body language and attraction. He has appeared on TV and Radio as a Coach on many occasions and is also a well known author. You can find James at www.jamespreece.com

Google Ranking 5 Stars

Lucy Porter

Lucy is a highly acclaimed and respected Dating Coach, Relationship Coach, Astrologer and Sex Therapist who is based in London. You can contact her at www.Lucy-porter.com – she is very versatile and knowledgable and uses astrology for matchmaking and bringing people together, as Lucy LOVES love. She writes regularly for he UK’s Wellness Hub www.sheslostcontrol.co.uk

Google Ranking – Watch this space

Could we help?

If you need any help on dating or relationships, our Membership Advisers are also experts in their own right. They are available from 9am until 9pm and their advice is always completely free. They can advise on joining a Dating Agency and often have an amazing depth of knowledge. Please ring us on 0800 644 4160 between 9am and 9pm and we can get you talking to someone very quickly.

The Best Alternative To Online Dating

The Best Alternative To Online Dating

A multitude of choices

These days when there are so many different ways of meeting a new partner, consumers are actually spoiled for choice and as online dating has declined in terms of the number of participants over the last decade or so, other forms of dating have expanded to fill the void. Here we examine some of the choices that are out there and some of the leading companies in each category that provide that specific sort of service.

A little bit of history

If you’re younger than 40 you have actually grown up with online dating and more recently, since 2012 or so, dating apps. But prior to the online dating onslaught in the late 1990’s – www.match.com had been launched in 1995 in the USA and in 1997 in the UK and the other major player www.eHarmony.com in the year 2000 and so people under 40 could probably be forgiven for thinking that it had always been that way and that online dating had always been part of the fabric of our lives. But of course it hasn’t.

Prior to the online dating revolution

Dating agency activity had first began with the launch of The Matrimonial Bureau in London in 1705, but modern dating in the UK was probably started in the 1930s when Heather Jenner and Mary Oliver launched The Marriage Bureaux in Bond Street, Mayfair in 1939. Later John Pattison opened the worlds first computerised dating service with Dateline in 1966, having brought the idea back from the USA.

Personal Matchmaking – The 80s and 90s

Modern day agencies that are still around today began in the 1980’s, with Heather Heber Percy and Geraldine Turner, launching www.countrypartners.co.uk in Shropshire, later www.thecountyregister.com was launched in London from the same stable. These were personal matchmaking brands and both are still around today, they both predated online dating and are extremely well established, as we are at www.searchmate.co.uk , having been launched the same year as match.com in 1998 – so there are clearly alternatives if you look carefully enough.

Post online dating options

After the rise and subsequent fall of online dating, dating apps such as Tinder (launched in2012), Hinge, Bumble and Happn have held sway in recent times but again the problems that besieged online dating have been a problem here. So fake profiles, scamming, disingenuous people, sexual predators and players just looking for a good time – issues that come with a huge volume of joiners who go through hardly any vetting procedures, simply haven’t yet been defeated and may never be.

Speed Dating

Since taking the UK by storm in 2002, Speed Dating, invented by a Jewish Rabbi, Yaacov Deyo in Florida in the late 1990s, has also offered an alternative to some. It has many advantages such as seeing your potential date face to face, right up front, which gives people the chance to check out that vital chemistry straight away. The downside is it may be a little too public for many, meeting in a room with typically 30-40 others, but it does work and is favoured by some.

Dating Events

The other opportunity could well be dating events, such as dinner parties, black tie balls, singles party nights, drinks gatherings to mix and mingle events etc are favoured by some, as it’s seen as a more natural way of meeting than the other formats. Our own sister company RSVP, based in Rutland, offer this type of event, so check them out at www.RSVP-int.co.uk They offer similar types of event to those described and all are popular.

Summing Up

So yes there are a plethora of alternatives to meeting strangers online, if you haven’t felt safe when participating in online dating or dating apps, which is something that seems to affect many. As many as 90% of the calls coming in to www.searchmate.co.uk are from people who have been uncomfortable with meeting people in this particular way. Which is obviously a concern, the big bones of contention being ‘meeting fake or fraudulent people’, ‘feeling in danger’, ‘peoples photographs being out of date’, ‘not being convinced that the person you are meeting is 100% who they say they are’, ‘meeting people already with a partner or significant other or maybe even married people’. We know and understand those feelings and the reservations that people have.

So what do we recommend?

Here we look at a few of the alternatives but letting Google rankings and reviews help you decide what is best for you (other search engine reviews if there are no Google reviews) and what you should be doing in future and which path to take. We look at most of the companies we have mentioned in this article to date:

www.match.com (No Google reviews found but www.whichdate.co.uk rated as 1.5/5 and www.reviewcentre.com as 1.3/5)

www.eHarmony.com (No Google reviews but www.Trustpilot.co.uk 1.4/5)

www.tinder.com (No Google reviews but 1.4/5 on www.Trustpilot.co.uk)

www.Happn.com (No Google reviews but 1.4/5 on www.trustpilot.co.uk)

www.bumble.com (No Google reviews but 1.4/5 on www.trustpilot.co.uk )

www.hinge.co (No Google reviews but 1.5/5 on www.trustpilot.co.uk

www.searchmate.co.uk (Google reviews 4.3/5)

www.thecountyregister.com (Google reviews 4.3/5)

www.countrypartners.co.uk (Google reviews 5/5)

www.RSVP-int.co.uk (Google reviews 5/5)

Your Choices

So YES there are alternatives to online dating and we would be happy to talk to you further about what they are and how we can help. Our Membership Advisers are available from 9am until 9pm almost every day and we are happy to answer you questions without obligation or any compulsion to join. If you’d care to ring us on 0800 644 4160 – it could just be the start of finding love for real, in your life. Please do make that call.